But since this is the case I don't put everything on this blog. You should know though, that me and Zach aren't perfect. :) I know, shocker! :)
Sometimes things are just off, could be me, could be him. When it is both of us, neither of us really know what to do. :)
Yesterday was one of those days. We were both off and we didn't know why. I was doing the dishes and he was reading to the kids or something and I was huffing and puffing. All the while, thinking to myself, "get a grip!", "what's wrong with you?", "think of all the things he DOES do Becca!". Okay, you should know I REALLY tried to think this through and get myself out of my "well if he would...." state.
Finally I decided I had best stop thinking and start writing because I am much more focused when I am writing.
So, the apple/suggestion for when times go like this: grab a notebook/ piece of paper, pen and start writing all the things you are grateful for about your spouse and don't stop until you feel better. Yes, the negative will come to mind, if you need to, say a prayer first and then don't let the negative things stay, only write the positive.
It is amazing the change that comes when we are grateful. Powerful thing.
"My brothers and sisters, do we remember to give thanks for the blessings we receive? Sincerely giving thanks not only helps us recognize our blessings, but it also unlocks the doors of heaven and helps us feel God’s love."-President Monson
What do you do to get out of your "well if he/she would..."state of mind?
2 comments:
good stuff, becca. those moments are tough, for sure. but we sure are blessed with some super guys!
I like the list idea, Becca. Another simple thing I do is just try to put myself in his shoes for a minute. There's not much to it, but it works.
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