frustrated?

lately (being vague) I've been frustrated with myself. some days I feel like I'm on the frustration fast track and I can't get off and I can't stop it.
the thing that bugs me the most is that I know it affects my family. i want to be the strong one. the crazy thing about being frustrated with yourself is that those are the times that the faults of others are much worse. you see what everyone else is doing wrong or not doing and it frustrates you. this can be anyone, including and most often your spouse and children.
so because this is all on my mind (which brings me to the purpose of this post), i am reminded of a talk I listened to a long time ago. Stand your Ground by Diana Holscher.
She was speaking to the youth and gave them this counsel. (paraphrasing) in anticipation of finding your companion for this life and the next, make a list of what you are looking/hoping for. And then, become that list. She then suggested that the leaders and parents do it too, especially if they were married. Light attracts light.
I am sure none of you have this same problem but I often focus more on what others are doing wrong than what I'm doing wrong. Like Sunday, we're in Sacrament meeting. Ben and Sarah are coloring and didn't stop until the person began their prayer. I thought it was cute and was glad they stopped when they heard the prayer begin. Zach was frustrated with them and kept his eyes open for a minute, watching them. I, while watching Zach was thinking, "why doesn't he just shut his eyes and set a good example?" Then I laughed to myself because I was totally doing the same thing.
So anyway, this might be an Apple that takes a little bit of time but I feel like it's worth it. Make a list of attributes you'd like to see in your spouse and then set out to become that list. It is a real truth that when we see someone else improve without spite but with honest and good intentions to become better, it motivates us to do the same.