There is a price for everything. Truly.
What if we actually considered the consequences of our interactions with others? Would we make some changes?
I know I would.
There is a price that you and I pay when we are rude, unkind, selfish and unfeeling.
We do not become better. If we aren't moving forward, we're moving backward. So, we're becoming worse. More rude, more unkind, more selfish and more unfeeling.
Not to mention, we also hurt the person we were rude or unkind to. We have given them more negative to deal with. As if they don't have enough. There is enough negative in this world that we don't need to go and make more for each other.
Trying to help someone make different choices by being negative does not help at all.
"We can't do right by doing wrong and we can't do wrong, by doing right." -President Monson
We can justify the day away. When all is said and done, this quote is so, so true.
It does take some thinking and a lot of times, prayer to come up with the right way to handle a situation. This is where we become better if we look for an alternative to negative.
When we are tempted to give a dirty look, to say an unkind word or give em a piece of our mind, think about the cost.
That kind of behavior does not build people up, it tears them down. When we think of those we love and the hopes we have for their success and happiness in life, think about the kind of behavior that would help build. If we are too focused on what we want to say or do that is negative, it is time to say a prayer and ask for some Outside perspective.
Some apples for the week:
* leave encouraging quotes and love notes for them to find in as many places as you can think of.
* seek out the positive Outside perspective. -scripture study, prayer, conference talks. (these things will help us be better builders.
* slow down. when they're talking, listen. when they come home greet them.
* pick up a treat or make one that you two can share later.
* plan your date night for this week. think outside of the box. it can be any day of the week and at any time. make it fit in to your week. do it!
* compliment them on something specific today.
* give them a break. when they seem tired, ask them how you can help. 15 minute rest in the bedroom without kids jumping on you? done. (don't start comparing your tiredness to theirs. just validate where they are at and forget about you for a minute. they know you're tired!)
"Remember: little things lead to big things. Seemingly insignificant indiscretions or neglect can lead to big problems. More importantly, simple, consistent, good habits lead to a life full of bountiful blessings." -Elder Richard G. Scott
What if we actually considered the consequences of our interactions with others? Would we make some changes?
I know I would.
There is a price that you and I pay when we are rude, unkind, selfish and unfeeling.
We do not become better. If we aren't moving forward, we're moving backward. So, we're becoming worse. More rude, more unkind, more selfish and more unfeeling.
Not to mention, we also hurt the person we were rude or unkind to. We have given them more negative to deal with. As if they don't have enough. There is enough negative in this world that we don't need to go and make more for each other.
Trying to help someone make different choices by being negative does not help at all.
"We can't do right by doing wrong and we can't do wrong, by doing right." -President Monson
We can justify the day away. When all is said and done, this quote is so, so true.
It does take some thinking and a lot of times, prayer to come up with the right way to handle a situation. This is where we become better if we look for an alternative to negative.
When we are tempted to give a dirty look, to say an unkind word or give em a piece of our mind, think about the cost.
That kind of behavior does not build people up, it tears them down. When we think of those we love and the hopes we have for their success and happiness in life, think about the kind of behavior that would help build. If we are too focused on what we want to say or do that is negative, it is time to say a prayer and ask for some Outside perspective.
Some apples for the week:
* leave encouraging quotes and love notes for them to find in as many places as you can think of.
* seek out the positive Outside perspective. -scripture study, prayer, conference talks. (these things will help us be better builders.
* slow down. when they're talking, listen. when they come home greet them.
* pick up a treat or make one that you two can share later.
* plan your date night for this week. think outside of the box. it can be any day of the week and at any time. make it fit in to your week. do it!
* compliment them on something specific today.
* give them a break. when they seem tired, ask them how you can help. 15 minute rest in the bedroom without kids jumping on you? done. (don't start comparing your tiredness to theirs. just validate where they are at and forget about you for a minute. they know you're tired!)
"Remember: little things lead to big things. Seemingly insignificant indiscretions or neglect can lead to big problems. More importantly, simple, consistent, good habits lead to a life full of bountiful blessings." -Elder Richard G. Scott
2 comments:
that was very insightful. thank you becca. :) applies to parenting too, i think, and i needed to hear that today.
Something I need to remember these days. Thank you
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