well, what's it gonna be?

have you decided yet?  what's it gonna be?  i'm waiting.  answer me.  will you decide already?  think about it and get back to me then.

what?  you don't know the answer?

what's the question, you ask?

good point.  you can't answer a question that you don't know.

well then, here is your question:

what kind of spouse will you be?

this question is not contingent on what your spouse does, says or even doesn't do or say.  this is only about your answer.

what kind of spouse will you be?

loving.

critical.

an encourager of dreams.

a discourager.

a strength.

a good example.

lazy.

unhealthy.

a seeker of truth.

optimistic.

motivated.

spiritual.

understanding.

rude.

unkind.

negative.

healthy.

fun.

honest.

true.

loyal.

forgiving.

passionate.

interested.

interesting.

clean.

harsh.

kind.

distracted.

responsible.

an achiever.

a best friend.

hopeful.

unselfish.

supportive.

enthusiastic.

present.

I quite enjoyed making this list.  what are some words that describe the kind of spouse you'd like to be?

let's consider why this question is an important one.  why do you think?

i thought of this question the other day, (not for the first time) because i saw two couples who appeared opposite at the moment.  i saw one where the spouse was verbally abusing their companion to others and then another couple who's spouse was praising their spouse to others.

i couldn't help but think, "how sad!" and, "do we know the kind of opportunity that is ours?"

Do you and i realize, truly realize, the opportunity to influence for good, someone who we care deeply about?  in a marriage we are vulnerable, we inevitably make mistakes, we open ourselves up the the scrutiny of our spouse because we love them.

how are we accepting of this vulnerability?  do we shun it?  disregard it?  mock it?  or do we see them and love where they are and then encourage them in their desire for growth?

we do have a really awesome opportunity!  let's make the most of it!

when our spouse, the companion of our choice makes a mistake and they are aware of it, do we need to make them feel worse?  let's be loving, encouraging, forgiving, helpful and fun.  respond the way you would want them to respond to your mistakes.  be kind.  life is a harsh teacher, we don't need to make it that much more difficult!

have you answered the question?

what kind of spouse will you be?

i will be: a best friend, loyal, uplifting, unselfish, interesting, fun, very attractive;), healthy, clean, passionate and present.

now that i know what kind of spouse i would like to be, when a difficult situation arises or when i'm bored, i can ask myself what would a loyal best friend, uplifting, unselfish, interesting, fun, very attractive, healthy, clean, passionate and present spouse do right now?

i would probably ask myself that and then go take a shower. ;)  and poof!, we're headed in the right direction!

what thoughts are inspired by your description of yourself?  what do you want to do?

in order for you to know, you need to ask the question.

let's get asking!

Becca :)