have you noticed that you get easily irritated with your spouse? or are date nights a thing of the past? do you do nice things for them just to do it? when was the last time you consciously spoke their love language? do you laugh together? do you enjoy their company?
if you are reading this on a bad day, i'm not writing this so you will think your marriage is doomed. seriously.
there are times in every marriage when the love bank account gets low. it happens for many, many reasons and we honestly, most of the time, don't mean for it to happen! it just does. it does because we let something or someone come before our marriage. again, not intentional.
so, lets get intentional. it's a new year. it's a great time to assess honestly where we are and where we want to be down the road. and really, there is no better time than now.
why do we want to make deposits in our spouses love bank accounts? well, if we aren't making deposits, then when withdrawals happen, the easily frustrated happens, the snappy comments happen, the lack of desire for quality time happens and then it gets worse...
whatever your love bank account statement says, just make note. if you are in the positive and still making deposits, keep depositing. if you are in the negative, then make some deposits and build your account back up.
one thing that is super great to remember is that you are responsible for YOU. you can't change anyone else's attitude or actions. you can only control your own. you can set a good example though.
what are some deposits we can all make in our love banks?
*say something nice to them (and be sincere)
*do something nice for them (and be sincere)
*talk nice to them all day (and be sincere) :)
*leave a note with words to your favorite love song or poem.
*ask them what they have going on that day and then later that day, text them and say you're thinking about them and you hope whatever they had went well or wish them good luck.
*pray for your spouse.
*pray together.
*when they are talking, listen to them by looking at their face and not your phone.
*touch them when you walk by.
*watch them and look for the good.
*start writing down what you're grateful for in them. (could be a great Valentines gift if you started soon)
*if you've been slacking at helping around the house, join in and be a team. turn on some music and enjoy yourselves.
*read about something that interests your spouse and shock them when YOU bring it up.
*ask them out on a date
remember, these are all like apples. consider an apple a day, a good deed a day, a deposit a day. whatever you want to call it. abundant blessings await for being intentional in your marriage!
i've enjoyed writing this list. while you read this list, what things came to your mind that would be like deposits in your spouses love bank?
it's good to be blogging again.
i love being married.
Becca
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